Did you smash the patriarchy this week?? Tell me below something you did that you’re proud of as a feminist!
As for me, graduating and working in Engineering was it. I’ve struggled with Engineering since I started my Bachelor, 9 years ago. I left High School with lots of confidence – I was good at Physics, at Math, always had good grades etc. Surely I would do fine, I thought. What I didn’t expect from the classes and the job was the misogyny – it didn’t really cross my mind at all. The Professors who gave all girls (we were 9 in class) low grades, the ones who would hit on us, or tell us we were attending the wrong class (happened to a friend of mine), or expected more of us if they were female Professors (berating us out loud in class for not getting only high grades to represent your gender well). How your colleagues at work would get together for a beer, but just the men, or tell jokes in a conference room during work time, but also just the men. That they’d call you darling and slap your hand away when you went for a handshake, giving you an unrequested hug instead. That you’d get hit on so many times that you’d learn to keep a stoic face, and not smile automatically at people – as that always encourages men. That some boys would discuss out loud your “prowess” or lack there of in bed, if you slept with them. How sad it is seeing your very girly friend start dressing more manly to be taken seriously. How lonely it is to the the only woman at work – for a year I was also the only foreign girl and the youngest member, so it was VERY awkward and depressing. They literally had no idea how to talk to me. I worked alone all day in a lab and had lunch quiet while they spoke a dialect of German to each other.
BUT NOW – I changed jobs and I’m in the job I wanted since I was a teen – a Space Engineer. I wear red lipstick at work if I want to, I have a few girls as friends and learned to separate the guys who were jerks from those who are genuinely nice. I’ve stopped laughing at stupid sexist jokes. I learned to answer curtly and yet politely to men who step over my boundaries. I no longer think I HAVE to be nice, but being nice is part of my personality, so I took a while to find the right balance when dealing with jerks. I no longer give excuses for the fact that I am not married yet or about when I am planning on having children.
I love talking about football (soccer), I love reading, I love make up and I love Medieval Combat. I’ll read hard sci-fi and chick flicks. Scientific non-fiction and fantasy romances. DO WHAT YOU LIKE, gender pre-conceptions come nowhere near the complexity of being human. No shame in being 100% girly. No shame in always dressing like a boy. Be you. No person is superior or inferior to you – you’re better than no one and no one is better than you. We’re all just trying to be our best selves. Dear book nerds, don’t let the bastards grind you down.
On a lighter note… This week I got the paperback editions of Wintersong and Shadowsong, because they’re gorgeous and I loved Wintersong so much I had to own a physical copy.
Genres: Classical Fiction, Romance, Gothic
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It is so difficult to rate and review this book. It took me months to go through the first 300 pages (my edition has 656 pages), as the story of Jane’s childhood is deeply bleak, depressing and full of fury. Jane loses both her parents very early, and was taken up by her uncle as a daughter. But once he dies, his wife and children mistreat Jane to any extents they can – even locking her up in a room for hours despite her screams of fear. This causes a deep trauma in Jane, who later on is sent to a charity school. Continue reading
Hello book lovers!
For International Women’s Day, I thought it would be nice to give and receive some feminist book recommendations! I am very pleased that in the past few years, feminist books have boomed and there is now so much to choose from in different genres, by different voices. Here are 10 really good ones!
A Room of One’s Own, by Virginia Woolf
This is an essay in which Woolf discusses the world around her, analyzing the limitations of women in society. It’s beautifully written and rather short to read, but so full of moments when you’ll have to stop reading and really think about it. It’s amazing and a non-fiction classic. Continue reading
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I have received this book via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.
I’m in such a mood for modern, feminist poetry lately. I haven’t read The Princess Saves Herself in This One, but it’s on my to-read list, even more after reading this book! This one is difficult to classify as fiction or non-fiction, because it has a mix of both. The With Doesn’t Burn in This One was such a powerful, intense and passionate read. I loved the poems, the witch theme and the unapologetic way the author talks about experiences of herself and other women. This is a great book and I highly recommend it!
I am back to work again this week, feeling much better than the last one. I am not entirely sure the medication is working, I don’t feel much different than when I took a smaller dosage, and my mood changes more in accordance with my routine (when I wake up, what I eat, whether I go out…) than my medication.
Guess who got a bit too excited getting books this month? In my defense, the Kindle books were max $3. I got Alledgedly, Queens of Geek and The Girl with Seven Names: A North Korean Defector’s Story. In Audiobook I got Dreams from my Father, Crazy Rich Asians and The Wedding Date. In Riveted, I also got The Impostor Queen, after reading Cait’s review on this book! As a physical book, I got Children of Blood and Bone and THE COVER IS SO GORGEOUS OMG I kind of squeaked of excitement in the bookstore… really.
I almost forgot, but the books below were free so I kinda went bananas and got them and I wonder if/when I’ll read them? Please don’t judge me, after Heartstone and ACOTAR, I’m down for fantasy romances so so much.
We had a Readathon again for 12h! I have been buying lots of books (clearly) and, although I read pretty much at least 2-3 books per week, it’s still piling up. Here’s a short thread on how it went:
Also, next week is International Women’s Day! So I will be posting feminist books’ reviews and a post with reading recommendations! I look SO MUCH forward to seeing what you guys come up with, I’m sure there will be many posts with awesome book recommendations!
As you know, in the US February is Black History Month! I am a light-skinned Latina, so I have no experience on being black in the US. But to honor this month, I read more books by black authors (somehow, only women) and added a few to my TBR! Here they are (click on the book cover to go to the Goodreads page):
What I Read This Month